The Bloglet of Fire
Welcome. Here, I explore how Tarot, myth, and story help us make sense of a beautifully complicated world. As a holistic health practitioner, divination devotee, and lover of all things esoteric, I reflect on well-being, curious metaphysics, and the little oddities that make life extraordinary. Through books, decks, and the stories they spark, I seek meaning in the everyday and invite you to join me on the journey. Discover more at amberhighland.com
Tuesday, March 3, 2026
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Friday, February 13, 2026
The Gravity of the Heart
Finding Agape in the Wild
We often grasp at love's simplest expressions: the fiery eros that keeps us up at night, or the steadfast philia shared with our closest companions. And then, there is Agape.Strip away the dogma and Sunday school lessons, and agape isn't a pious, unreachable ideal. It is radical, unconditional, and deliberate goodwill. Although not always comfortable, agape is the decision to love the world because your internal compass refuses to point any other way. It is love as a verb. I remember a time when I stood at a crossroads, struggling with resentment toward a colleague who had wronged me. Instead of letting bitterness take hold, I consciously chose to show them kindness, even offering help with a project they struggled with. That messy moment, filled with inner conflict and ultimately marked by resolution, grounded my understanding of agape as an active choice. Similarly, imagine a moment in daily life: you're in line at a bustling grocery store, and the cashier is overwhelmed, multitasking with long queues and impatient customers. Choosing patience and offering a reassuring smile or a few kind words can transform their challenging day. It's in these ordinary exchanges that the profound nature of agape comes to life.Examples of 'selfless-love-as-a-superpower' can be found in pop culture characters who prioritize the greater good over their own narratives. Pop culture matters because it reflects and shapes our collective consciousness, offering narratives that resonate deeply with personal growth and value formation. By drawing inspiration from these stories, we can better understand how to incorporate ideals like agape into our own lives.- The Iron Giant: When the Giant says, "Superman," and flies toward the missile, he isn't just performing a nice gesture. He is actively overwriting his core programming. Created as a weapon of destruction, the Giant’s transformation into a protector is a powerful narrative about repurposing technology for care. This ideological shift from a tool of violence to an icon of peace and love sharpens the socio-political stakes of love. Agape, in this sense, is the ultimate act of free will.
- Samwise Gamgee: While The Lord of the Rings is full of epic battles, Sam’s devotion to Frodo—and to the memory of a world that is "good and worth fighting for"—is the ultimate secular Agape. He carries the weight because the weight needs carrying.
- Everything Everywhere All At Once: Waymond Wang’s plea—"Please, be kind. Especially when we don't know what's going on"—is the modern mantra for Agape. Before you read further, take a moment to pause and breathe, recalling a recent moment of confusion in your life. This will help you resonate with Waymond's message on a deeper level. It’s choosing empathy as a tactical necessity in a chaotic, uncaring multiverse.
- Ted Lasso: The "Lasso Way" is essentially a study in Agape. It’s the practice of offering someone the best version of yourself, even when they are actively offering you their worst.
The Mechanics of the Soul
Agape doesn't require a temple; it requires a threshold. It's the moment you stop asking, 'What does this person/place/thing do for me?' and start asking, 'How can I honor the life inherent in this?' In many ways, this echoes the principle of ahimsa in Hinduism, which emphasizes non-violence and respect for all living beings. Similarly, Buddhist metta encourages boundless loving-kindness. By drawing from these traditions, we see that the essence of love transcends any single religious or cultural boundary. "Love is not a feeling. It's an ability." — Mitch, Dan in Real Life.
In that sense, it resembles a sort of spiritual physics. To practice agape is to exert a steady force (F) of kindness strong enough to meet the dense mass (m) of cynicism that often takes shape as relentless news doom-scroll or workplace sarcasm, and the velocity, or acceleration (a), of the chaos around us (F=ma). Consider a specific day at the office when tensions are high, and negativity feels palpable. Perhaps a teammate is struggling with a project, and the atmosphere is laced with anxiety. Here, applying a steady force of kindness—such as offering thoughtful feedback or acknowledging effort despite setbacks—can neutralize the negative mass and shift the day's trajectory, making the workplace atmosphere more positive and collaborative. By identifying these tangible forms of negativity, the metaphor becomes an invitation to counteract these forces with deliberate love.Since we’ve established that agape is more about ability and identity than simply a fuzzy feeling, these prompts are designed to get you thinking about where you've flexed that 'moral muscle' in your life. Here are a few ways you might consider engaging with them:- Journal: Take some quiet time to write down your thoughts and reflections on each prompt. This will help you explore your internal landscape and track your growth over time.- Discuss: Use these prompts as starting points for meaningful conversations with friends or loved ones, deepening your understanding through shared insights.- Meditate: Reflect on a prompt during meditation to internalize its message and find peace and clarity.
Over to You: The Agape Audit
If you’re feeling the "Lasso Way" today, I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments:- 1. Defining the Ability: If love is an ability and not just a feeling, what’s one way you’re "training" that muscle this week? Perhaps share an intended "program overwrite" for the coming days to further turn reflection into a communal commitment. By making public micro-pledges, we often sustain the heroic arc celebrated here.
- 2. The Unseen Weight: Samwise carried Frodo when the ring became too heavy. Who is someone in your life you support simply because "the weight needs carrying," even if there’s no "thank you" at the end of the road?
- 3. The Tactical Empathy: In the spirit of Waymond Wang, when has being "silly" or "kind" actually been your strongest weapon in a tough situation?
- 4. The "Superman" Moment: Is there a time you had to "overwrite your programming" (anger, cynicism, or even just laziness) to choose kindness instead? What was the catalyst?
Note: "The Lasso Way" is a philosophy of life popularized by the t.v. character Ted Lasso, focusing on kindness, empathy, and personal growth over winning. It promotes unconditional positive regard, fostering a supportive culture where people feel valued, respected, and empowered.
Thursday, February 5, 2026
The Stories We Live By
Why Personal Mythology is Essential for Holistic Well-Being
- Identify Your Current Narrative: What story do you find yourself repeating? Are you the hero, the victim, or the villian in your own story?.
- Externalize the Problem: Instead of "I am a failure," try saying, "I am experiencing a setback." This separates you from the problem, making it feel more manageable.
- Emphasize Redemption and Agency: Research suggests that stories focusing on agency (you took control) and redemption (you found growth in a bad situation) lead to better mental health.
- Use Metaphor: If you feel overwhelmed, imagine a character in a movie navigating this exact scenario. What would they do?.
Tuesday, January 27, 2026
Play as Devotion
Friday, January 23, 2026
Why Myth and Folklore Matter
Why Myth and Folklore Matter
Myth as a Language for the Unspeakable
Folklore as a Map Through Moral Rupture
Myth and the Experience of Radical Otherness
Collective Memory and Cultural Survival
Why Myth Still Matters Now
Tuesday, January 13, 2026
The Body as Oracle
The Body as Oracle
The body often registers what is happening before the mind has words for it. Long before a decision feels conscious, the body has already responded: energy shifts, attention narrows or opens, muscles tense or release. We are rarely encouraged to treat these responses as meaningful. Instead, we learn to explain them away, to override them in the name of efficiency or reason, and to keep moving until discomfort becomes impossible to ignore. In doing so, we miss a steady source of information that is available to us all the time.
Fatigue is one of the clearest signals the body offers, though it is frequently misunderstood. Not all tiredness is a problem; some fatigue is simply the result of effort or care. What matters is the quality of it. There is a particular kind of exhaustion that appears out of proportion to the task at hand, or that shows up reliably in certain situations. When fatigue gathers around specific commitments, conversations, or environments, it is often pointing to an ongoing imbalance. Something is being asked that costs more than it returns.
Paying attention does not mean abandoning responsibility or withdrawing from life. It means noticing patterns rather than pushing past them. Often, what needs to change is not the work itself, but the conditions under which it is being done, or the version of yourself that feels required to carry it.
Excitement, by contrast, tends to be subtle and steady. It is not always loud or urgent, and it does not depend on external validation. This kind of excitement shows itself in what continues to interest you after rest, what you return to without pressure, and what feels nourishing even when it is challenging. It does not guarantee success or ease, but it often indicates a form of alignment between the task and your own temperament.
Resistance is the signal we are most likely to pathologize. It is easy to name it fear or avoidance and try to push through. Sometimes that assessment is accurate. Just as often, resistance arises when timing is wrong, when consent is incomplete, or when the scope of what is being asked exceeds what feels sustainable. The body resists what it cannot safely absorb.
When resistance is approached with curiosity rather than force, it becomes more precise. It may soften if the task becomes smaller or less absolute, suggesting the need for adjustment rather than refusal. When it remains firm despite those changes, it may be marking a genuine boundary. Learning to tell the difference takes time and attention, not discipline.
Treating the body as a source of guidance is not about treating sensation as command. Bodies carry habit, history, and memory. The practice is cumulative. You begin to notice what reliably drains you, what restores you without effort, and what only becomes difficult when the stakes or expectations shift. Over time, these observations form a pattern that is hard to dismiss.
This is a grounded form of divination, one rooted in observation rather than symbolism. The body does not speak in declarations or answers. It communicates through timing, sensation, and repetition. When taken seriously, and without judgment, it offers information that is practical, consistent, and already woven into daily life.
Friday, January 9, 2026
Alignment in Action
I was recently invited to join a regular virtual writers’ group. I’d always seen myself as a lone-wolf writer, so I was open to the idea but a bit skeptical. From the first session, though, those doubts disappeared. Rather than feeling distracted or limited, I actually thrived in the group’s energy.
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